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An Exploration of Inner Self

Monday, November 9th, 2009

The Tiny Acorn

“Just as the tiny acorn contains within it a mighty oak tree, you have within you greatness beyond your wildest imagination.”

J.Sewell Perkins


DISCOVER YOUR INNER SELF

An Exploration of Inner Self

By J.Sewell Perkins, SCI

An interesting thing, the human mind… men and women throughout the ages have gone to great lengths and devoted their lives to a variety of discoveries without ever exploring their inner selves. While we surely must pay homage to those who have discovered continents, life-saving vaccines, outer space, etc., isn’t it interesting that discoveries outside ourselves seem so much more interesting and important to us than the exploration of our inner selves?

Many famous people throughout history have contributed much to our world as we know it today and yet so many of them never took the time to get to know themselves. There were, of course, those who devoted their lives to discoveries outside themselves and still managed to explore their inner selves as well. Those were the magnificent ones and we should seek their written works and biographies and learn from them…and that brings to mind one of my favorite quotations, actually it’s an old Zen saying…

Do not follow in the footsteps of the masters. Seek what they sought.

That’s great advice but only if you’re sure that what they sought is what you seek. Hopefully the thing you seek first and foremost is to discover your inner self.

Once you really know your inner self everything else you do will be easier. Too many people live and die without ever really having engaged in that exploration. They lived off the cuff, so to speak. By that I mean that they were as straws in the wind. When the winds of fortune or failure blew one way that’s the way they went. When the winds shifted to another direction, so did they. Never really discovering your inner self relegates you to the life of someone to whom things just happen, things over which you have no control.

So, what does this discovering one’s inner self really mean? How does one even begin to do it? Well, it starts with understanding why you do what you do, why you react to certain things the way you do. It’s important to understand why you’ve never realized your dream…if you ever even had a dream. You need to know why things rarely seem to work out for you the way they seem to work out so well for others.

The answer lies in what you think about and the way you think about it. We need to delve into how success or failure; happiness or misery; loving or loveless lives are a direct results of the thoughts you have about them. Yes, your thoughts do actually determine your destiny.

Memorize the following words until they become so much a part of your life that you know them as well as you know your own name…then begin to live them daily.

Be aware of your thoughts; your thoughts become your words.

Be aware of your words; your words become your actions.

Be aware of your actions; your actions become your deeds.

Be aware of your deeds; your deeds become your habits.

Be aware of your habits; your habits become your character.

When we know ourselves, truly know ourselves, it is then that we will know success.

Optimism – An Idea or a Reality?

Tuesday, October 13th, 2009

The Tiny Acorn

“Just as the tiny acorn contains within it a mighty oak tree, you have within you greatness beyond your wildest imagination.”

J.Sewell Perkins

OPTIMISM – AN IDEA OR A REALITY?

As an avid Twitter-er who tweets under the name @TheSCICoach each day, I choose a WORD OF THE DAY. Actually, being limited by Twitter to 140 total characters, I call it TODAY’S WORD (that saves me three characters).

The chosen word of the day is the basis for all the tweets of the day and all the tweets relate to the chosen word. Many followers tell me the quotes are each rather like a mini coaching session and since I’m a Life, Business Development and Marketing Strategies Coach, mini coaching sessions are right up my alley.

The point of this post is that of all the hundreds of tweets I’ve tweeted, one word brought the greatest reaction. That word is OPTIMISM. Other words used for these mini coaching sessions have been: ability, happiness, risk, determination, obstacles, knowledge, courage, persistence, life and many others. Of all those words OPTIMISM received an overwhelming response.

That’s significant because most people are not optimistic. As a coach I speak with people who live in a world of “It’s not working.” Whatever it is…it’s not working for them. The fact is that things don’t just work. We create things working or not working by the way we think about them.

If you think about all the complainers you know, most of them feel they are as straws in the wind. They seriously believe they are powerless in how their lives turn out. Perhaps complaining is easier for them to handle than the responsibility of living an abundant life.

Many show up in my office for their first appointment telling me that they are trapped in a dark closet (or some other dark place) and can’t get out. The first thing I want to know is if they know who holds the key? It no longer surprises me to hear these desperate people say, “It’s not locked.” According to them, the reason they can’t open the door is because they are trapped there…trapped there in a confining, dark space with an unlocked door and according to them, they can’t get out.

What that means is too much to go into here but if you’re wondering how I deal with that, I open the door and tell them to come out. Once they are out, I lock the door from the outside and keep the key.

Obviously, the client did not bring the closet with him; the closet is a metaphor for feeling trapped. I not only let these people out of the closet but give them light to keep with them at all times. The source of the light I give depends entirely on their personal beliefs and what I know they can handle in the moment.

So, the question is why is OPTIMISM so fascinating…so interesting to so many people? It’s because they long to be optimistic, to be hopeful but sometimes one becomes so entrenched in the minutia of life that it’s difficult to see above the trench.

As I work with these people and as they begin to become more trusting, I put them through something we developed at Success Coaches Institute called the MindRemodel. It’s a trademarked procedure for cutting through all the misinformation and false beliefs that may go back as far as early childhood (it can actually be prenatal). Its official name is “Original Faulty Programming” and while it is a powerful and all consuming force, it can be overcome.

Everyone likes the idea of being optimistic. It’s a hopeful word that by its very nature implies happiness, success and all-in-all a great life. The question is – is optimism an idea or a reality?

Which is it for you…or do you know?

If you tell me it’s a nice idea and seems to work for some but would never work for you because you know it’s not possible to change your life simply by changing your thoughts about it…you are absolutely correct. If, however, you tell me optimism is a reality and by expecting the best life has to offer, you are actually attracting it to you, you’re correct.

What you think about things does become your reality. Your thoughts can create a magnificent life for you or keep you broke and desperately searching for the rest of your life.

If you’ve never read As a Man Thinketh by James Allen, I recommend you do so ASAP. To take away any excuses you may have about not knowing where tot get a copy, I just happen to have a copy for you. If you’ll go to SuccessCoachesInstitute you will be able to download a free copy. It’s my gift to you.

Be well, be happy and make today… and every day… absolutely magnificent,

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